By Mohamedhussein Suleimanjee
Our thoughts make our life. We reap what we sow.You cannot expect to constantly think of fear, trouble and disharmony, and reap a crop of courage, happiness and peace. Our thoughts always bring forth their kind in life.
You will always gravitate towards that which you secretly love most.
Into your hands will be placed the results of your own thoughts.
You will receive that which you earn, no more, no less.
The vision that you glorify in your mind, the ideal you enthrone in your heart, this you will build in your life, this you will become.
Become aware of the kind of thoughts you habitually have.
Check the thoughts that you remember having in the last ten minutes.
Were they constructive, positive, affirmative or were they worrying, fearful, thoughts of inferiority, failure or complaint?
Donâ€™t just think about them. Write them down. You never really know a thought until it is written down and when you have it on paper, you can make a clear assessment of the type of thought and the possible effect it might have in your life.
Watch your words. They are an expression of your thinking.
Try not to talk about your failures, your wants, and your disappointments, your worries and fears.
If you ever have to confide in someone, be sure it is a positive person, and then make your confidence a once-only business. Donâ€™t emphasise your problem by chewing it over and over again.
Determine to face the obstacles in your life with the intention of finding an answer.
An affirmative life is always a life of action, not merely reaction.
Even our failures and disappointments can help us to grow if we look at them positively.
Not as obstacles but as challenges and opportunities to grow bigger and reach higher.
This does not mean ignoring the problems and pretending they do not exist.
Face them squarely and follow them with constructive thoughts and constructive actions.
Everyone has problems. People who are successful have reached their goals, not because life does not have its problems, but because they saw them as opportunities, stepping-stones to success.
Make the point of always trying to look at events positively.
This may not be easy, but it can be very profitable.
The habit of looking at the best side of every event is worth more than your material possessions.
You will probably have set backs.
Become the director of your life, instead of allowing yourself to be pushed into a depressed mood by what others say or do.
A good slogan is â€™the incident is external, the reaction is mine to decide.â€™In these busy lives that most of us lead, things are continually happening around us.
But the only things that really count in our lives are the things that happen within us, our reactions, our inner thoughts, the way we handle these outer happenings.
Nobody has the power to make us angry unless we allow them.
I recall having read in Prophet Muhammadâ€™s (Peace Be Upon Him) life ? there was a woman who always threw dirt on the Prophet every time he passed by her house, and the Prophet without showing any anger would simply remove it off his clothes.
Neighbours who had witnessed this for a long time one day asked the Prophet why he tolerated this.
He simply replied â€™why should I let her decide how I shall act?â€™ What a great lesson we learn from his reply if you think about it.
There were no schools of psychology in the Prophetâ€™s time, but he was a great psychologist I suppose.
You can decide yourself how you are going to act, what you are going to think and how you are going to let yourself feel.
You can, in fact, set your own theme for the day. You can determine that you will be positive throughout the day.
To become affirmative in your life, all you need to do is change the ideas you sell to yourself.
It is easy to sell ourselves ideas of confidence, faith in our powers and other ideas that breed success.
Suggest confidence to yourself in the same way that you have been suggesting failure.
Your thoughts make up your life. Only you have power over your thoughts.
Life is an adventure in which every difficulty is a new opportunity to demonstrate your faith, confidence and power. Be sure to feed positive thoughts to your mind.
Be persistent in training yourself to make the positive response. Insist in saying â€™yesâ€™ to life, and you will soon find life saying â€™yesâ€™ to you.